Tuesday, July 17, 2007

What Season Are You?

People come and people go. But some stay. Forever. These memories I can't replace. One of those people is my dearest and longest friends D. She was recently here after a much needed visit. Long over due. I'm sitting here today feeling, well, a bit nostalgic and also sad. We laughed until we pee'd looking at old photo albums and sucking on the grape. What was up with that big hair and those oh so big sunglasses?! They really were in style back then--really.

As I stroll down memory lane I've realized that I have some pretty amazing friends whom I love and adore. Sometimes I take them
for granted. Life too for that matter. I know I'm so lucky to be surrounded by such quality people and loved by such great friends, unconditionally.

D. and I dated best friends in high school. Football player's. We do
uble dated and attended prom together. We spent every waking hour at one another's home. We were in one another's weddings. We have vacationed with the same group of friends over the past 20+years. Over the years the late nights have gotten shorter. *snicker* There was that year in New Orleans (you remember D....)where we even caught David Letterman on the telly back in our hotel room and we were all in our nighties and under the covers! No not together you crazy people. Not quite the night owls we once were slingin' back shots and dancing the night away to Madonna's "Vogue". Those were the days.....Yes, we grew up together. Thank g-d we grew up and got some fashion sense. I smile when I think about us now at *cough* 39(oh shut-up--it's my story) and where we'll be at 59. WE have shared in one another's joys, promotions, secrets,heart aches and disappointments. She has never judged. A trait that I admire. Yes, I truly admire her. You see my friend has a very rare eye disease which cost her a successful 20+ year career that she loved passionately. She worked for one of the largest food giants in the country at a time where it was a mans world. She worked her way to the top and not on her back. She was well respected in her field. Unfortunately this disease will eventually cost her her eye sight. The ability to drive. Her freedom. I know she must be fearful (although she doesn't show it) about the unknown especially knowing that her mother is in the advanced stages of the disease and her 15 year old daughter was diagnosed several years ago. However through it all she has never complained. She's taken it all in stride. She is so brave. She is lucky too. She has friends who love her and an awesome husband and a beautiful daughter.

Ironic that today when I was feeling blue and a bit lonely I opened my e-mail and she had sent the attached poem. Lifetime, that's what she is. I love her and I love what we have become. True friends. Lifetime friends. Family. Thank you D for always being there for me.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for
that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a god send and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient
time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desir
e fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They
may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must buil
d upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind! but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

What are you? A Reason? A season? Or a Lifetime"?


Lori said...

Wow, how lovely! You are blessed to have such a dear friend!
I'm with you on the big hair thing! (looking back on some of my old pictures) And the shoulder pads too, whats up with that?!

ps Thanks for the comment on my blog. I'd LOVE to plan your next party!! :) Especially if it's for your angels...double the fun!!

Noemi said...

D sounds like an amazing person... Lovely tribute to her!

Jewels of My Heart said...

Beautiful heartfelt post...true friends are precious.

kerri said...

What a truly beautiful person D is, very inspiring too.
You are both blessed to have each other in your lives.
I going to go call my best friend to tell her I love her, thanks Rony.

mommy24treasures said...

awww. You have an amazing friend. beautiful post.

Cindy from central NC said...

You are a special special girl. I can't wait 'til our trip together in a few weeks. What a touching essay. I love it and totally believe it inside and out.

Beverly said...

That last pic is so sweet of your friend accepting the kiss. The look on her face seems to hope the kiss never ends.


Ms. Dragonfly said...

You speak truth.
I recently tried to rekindle a friend I had for a season, she was not intersted. That in itself was a leason for me. Our time together was finished.
And thank Buddha that I have lifelong friends that love me even though I can be alot to take sometimes.

Truly Blessed said...

Wow. What fortunate people you are to have each other.

Your post makes me really miss my Lifetime friend.

Glad you had a nice visit.

Two Kayaks said...

Bee-U-tee-ful! I love my best friend for all the reasons you list about yours and think that it is imperative for women to have (at least) one best WOMAN friend.
Love the story.

nikki said...

Awesome post! I LOVE my lifetime friends -- I think that is the kind of friendship that my heart desires most. I am a stick-with-it kinda gal...I miss people when they leave me. (But I do realize that some people are just there for a reason or a season)

cougchick said...

friends like that are hard to come by. Hang on tight to each other!

Salome's Mom said...

What a beautiful post.

Steffie B. said...

wow.....that was beautiful Rony! You are very lucky to have such a friend.

Yes, Minister... said...

Oh Rony, that was awesome ~ you are very lucky to have a friend like that. I have seen a lot of people come and go through the adoption journey and yet, I have also found some true friends for a lifetime :D

Yes, Minister... said...

Oh Rony, that was awesome ~ you are very lucky to have a friend like that. I have seen a lot of people come and go through the adoption journey and yet, I have also found some true friends for a lifetime :D

Diana said...

You are both so lucky to have shared so much together. Truly rare to find someone so compatible throughout all the stages of your life.
I just love the last picture of one of your girls kissing your friend. She looks to me like she is trying to keep the vision of that moment in her memory forever.

Jewels of My Heart said...

Ok, I'm a DORK! You left a comment and tagged me... said I was it! So.... a....... what are we playing? I'm so confused.... LOL
However I must admit I am just excited to be thought of enough to be tagged...
anyway, it went over my head so please enlighten me.

Julie said...

Don't you love friends like this? My very best friend and I have been friends since we were three and even if we don't talk for a while its like we spoke just minutes ago!


theghelertertwins.blogspot.com said...

Yeah, I do love friends like this. They're are like a fine wine. They just get better and better.....

tegdirb92 said...

wow, that is the sweetest post!! You are very blessed.