Monday, May 05, 2008

Let It Go!!!!





There are people who have come into my life and although we don't speak everyday they are in my heart all the time. There are also people who have come into my life and as much as I try to stay connected their committment is not there. We're all busy, but in order to be a friend you have to want to take the time. I've realized there are some people who I've tried to be friends with and it just isn't there for them. This was hard for me. I value friendship to the core. Me, the mother of two year old twins with a big career manages to find the time to reach out to stay connected. This was shared with me from one of those friends who is always in my heart. Enjoy.


Let it go for 2008.




By T. D. Jakes




There are people who can walk away from you.




And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.


I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.




When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.




The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not forus. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]




People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.




Let them go.




And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've gotto know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.You've got to know when it's dead.




You've got to know when it's over.




Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.




Let them go!!




If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life,then you need to......




LET IT GO!!!




If you are holding on to past hurts and pains .......




LET IT GO!!!


If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth.....


LET IT GO!!!


If someone has angered you .


LET IT GO!!!


If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge......


LET IT GO!!!


If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction......


LET IT GO!!!


If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ............


LET IT GO!!!


If you have a bad attitude.......


LET IT GO!!!


If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......


LET IT GO!!!


If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him........


LET IT GO!!!


If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.......


LET IT GO!!!


If you're feeling depressed and stressed ..........


LET IT GO!!!


If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying 'take your hands off of it,' then you need to......


LET IT GO!!!


Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2008!!!


LET IT GO!!!


Get Right or Get Left. Think about it, and then.


LET IT GO!!!'


The Battle is the Lord's !'

Note: Please feel free to "steal" this. As I mentioned one of my dearest (you know who you are) forwarded this to me. For me it was a reminder of those who are dear to me. We can't always fret about the ones who could've been. After all, they too need to put a little effort into the relationship.....

34 comments:

Chinazhoumom said...

That post is soooo right on !!!

I had a best friend (we are second cousins -he is my child's Godfather)
but sadly he has decided that our lives have gone in different directions (his words not mine) so mr single now had no time for his friend much less his Godchild - so very sad - so I have to LET IT GO!
thank you for giving me the words.
Carol

Rony said...

I know. It's hard. I have family that never (NEVER) calls to inquire about the girls. I use to hope. I finally decided the time was to "let it go". After all it's their loss. I also have a friend (I thought we were friends) lived on the same street until recently. Anyway, I realized that if I wasn't reaching out to her she never called. She always had the same story about being so busy. She doesn't even have kids! I finally have thrown in the towel. It's hard being friends with someone who puts no effort into it. LET IT GO.

jennifer said...

That's a great post. I have a childhood friend that I haven't talked to in a year because I'm tired of leaving her messages and never getting a call back. I finally decided it wasn't worth it. It still makes me mad, though.

Love the quotes.

Sharie said...

Rony,
You have no idea how badly I needed to read this today. I'm stealing it to email to my family right now. I hope you don't mind. Sometimes we even have to let go of those we love more than they love themselves.
Thank you for sharing!!

Marla said...

Wow, I know someone who desperately needs to read this and if you don't mind, I am going to forward it on. Thanks for posting.

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy(Kim & John) said...

Great Post...
I have a father that does not call due to his wife.. and his grandchildren have no clue why.. I had a BEST friend for 15 years.. did everything together.. she came out to visit in Az. one year and have never heard from her again..
It is amazing how people you think are connected are not..
I have let it go.. but it is funny how it seems to come up once in a while..
Thank you for being such a Great Friend..
You have been an inspiration to me..
HUGS...

Heza Hekele said...

Thank you. I really, really needed that today.

Dianne said...

Rony,

Great quote! You seem like a great friend to many. I agree, you can't always do the chasing, it's nice when it's mutual, and even better to be chased sometimes ;). Also, there is a time & season... Thanks for sharing.

When you get a chance, look up this blog, you may need tissues. She was a friend to all, and was the one to reach out to others, often with little in return, before she was taken on her 30th birthday. If she only knew how many people she touched and how much they loved her.
kristymemoryblog.blogspot.com

your friend,
Dianne

Steffie B. said...

Great post Rony.....it's not always easy to let go either! I would sadly know that as well.

have a fabulous week girl....

Kathryn said...

This is a great post and so true. I've been doing alot of letting go these days and it is truly freeing and I have not felt this content in a long time!!!!!!!

mommy24treasures said...

this is really good Rony... Thanks so much for sharing.

jiangxigirls said...

What a great post! I had a BF all through HS and she decided that she no longer wanted to be my friend about 2 years ago. Although I have let it go, this post still hit home.

E. said...

What a great post! You always make me wonder why I pay a therapist so much!!! ;)
There are so many people and things I need to stop fighting so hard for. It's easier and less painful to just "LET IT GO" (or as I'd prefer to say - "F-IT"

cougchick said...

such good advice. Thanks friend!

The Byrd Family said...

I know exactly what you mean! My four children have only one set of grandparents left and they send presents at holidays and that's it! Lottie & Emma Jane call women at our church Grandma and I think it is wonderful. It saddens me about my mom and dad but it IS their loss. All my children are amazing and sometimes God places substitute family in their places and for that I am grateful.

Mr.Brian said...

Such good advice.
I decided a few weeks ago I too needed to do the same thing.... forgive and forget.
It is not easy to do but in the long run it makes life much better.
Life is to short to stay mad and stop speaking to people.
Even with bloggers I miss some whom I used to talk to.
Thanks for a post we could all relate to.

Yoli said...

Great post my Rony. I love it. It is true and I am so guilty of always trying to stay in touch of extending the olive branch. I do it with family and with friends and I need to realize when it is time to just let it be, because friendship and love is a two way street.

Kristy said...

Your right, LET GO...LET GOD!!!

I love the heck out of you Rony!!

Love , Kristy

Sam said...

BTDT...But I'm not letting you go! I'll stalk you to the ends of the Earth!!! Love you, sweetie!!!

Christy said...

I TOO HAVE ONE SIDE OF MY FAMILY - MY HUSBANDS PARENTS THAT RARELY SEES THE KIDS AND THEY LIVE LITERALLY 15 MINUTES FROM US. KEVIN EVEN WORKS IN THE CITY THEY LIVE IN AND HIS DAD IS RETIRED WITH PLENTY OF TIME ON HIS HANDS. HIS MOM WILL RETIRE NEXT YEAR BUT THEY CALL ONCE A MONTH AND ALL THE COMMUNICATION IS ON MY END. I CALL, I ASK THEM TO COME OVER AND THEY ARE ALWAYS WONDERFUL WHEN WE SEE THEM BUT THEY DO NOT INITIATE ANYTHING AND IT HAS BUGGED ME SOOOOO BADLY!!! I JUST WANT THEM TO TAKE AN INTEREST IN MY KIDS BUT THEY NEVER DO-- AFTER ALMOST 10 YEARS. WHAT I HAVE HAD TO REALIZE IS THAT THEY ARE FINE WITH THEIR LEVEL OF INVOLVEMENT. IM NOT OK WITH IT BUT THEY ARE AND THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT. MY PARENTS ARE VERY INVOLVED AND SEE THE KIDS OFTEN-- THEY ARE GOOD WITH THAT LEVEL OF INVOLVEMENT BUT KEIVNS PARENTS ARE HAPPY WITH THEIR ONCE A MONTH AND I JUST NEED TO LET IT GO BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE. I HAD TO REALIZE THIS WHEN MIA CAME HOME AND LEARN TO KEEP MY EXPECTATIONS LOW. THAT WAY THERE IS NO DISAPPOINTMENT.

CHRISTY :)

Andrea said...

TD JAKES IS KICKIN" Any advice from him is good advice.

I have had to do the same thing. It gets easier.

A

nikki said...

You would not believe how badly I needed to read that today, Rony.
Thank you!

Noemi said...

WOW! Very powerful! I really needed that! It is hard to let it go, especially when it is family. I read this with tears in my eyes.

Bonnie'n'Clyde said...

Happy mother's day weekend to the mama of two wild, woolly and gorgeous girls!! Wishing you a weekend full of love and happiness! OX

Jewels of My Heart said...

Words of wisdom my friend... Thank you for sharing and a big hug to you because I know that even though letting go is the right thing to do, the healthy thing to do, the self preserving thing to do, the healing thing to do.... it is not the easiest thing to do....
For what it is worth... YOU ARE STUCK WITH ME BABY!
Happy Mother's Day my pal...
Love you,
Daleea

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy(Kim & John) said...

Happy Mother's Day to one of the coolest Mommy's around..
Have a Great Day..
HUGS

Steffie B. said...

Happy Mother's Day.... ;)

redmaryjanes said...

Oh Rony,
This is so powerful, I will steal it and post it. It is absolutely fabulous. And there are things I need to let go. Things I need to let go badly.

redmaryjanes said...

Oh, I came over here to say Happy Mother's Day!

Cindy from central NC said...

Happy Mothers Day!!
Hope your day was as perfect as ours was....I even managed to post a new post.

Hey, glad we got the chance to talk for a few mins the other day....was a bit crazy but i know thing's will be better over these next 2 weeks as I'm not working for 2 full weeks. What are the times that you commute to/from work that are good for you?
Oh, Ed's confirming our BeachHouse this week. Is AnneMarie and her family able to join us, too?

Can't wait to talk without screaming babies behind us.

Love love love
cin

Fliss and Mike Adventures said...

Now, this is SO true... I love it... to me... I have friends who will be friends for a while and then they will go by the way side... there are friends I don't talk to all that often but when we do... look out and I will be friends with them for years and years to come... I know that in time I will have to 'let it go' after a while... I could say that there is about a dozen people that I know I will be friends with for a long time to come - ones that I have made through 'blogging' and this crazy 'adoption'... this is life... I think that we meet these people - whether they are long time friends or by the wayside friends... we are all meant to meet for a reason and maybe that reason is for 'support' for now... we learn little lessons from them... take care...

Steffie B. said...

ok....where the dilly are you?!?!?!?

Noemi said...

Hey just wanted to say that we MISS you! Throw us a bone at least! LOL

Just wanted to stop by and say HI! Hope all is good on your side of the fence!

PS: How about throwing in some pics of your precious girls on the next post? :wink:wink:

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy(Kim & John) said...

Okay.. I take it you are having MORE fun..
You are goingto have a LONG post .. you are having tooo much fun without me girly..
MISS YOU..
Hope all is well.
HUGS..