Monday, January 21, 2008

"Ride Sally Ride"





To summarize here is the sequel to what we fondly refer to as the "pursuit of happiness"! So I'm firing bullets at you. Duck. Take cover.

  • Abbey finally oh thank g-d after 18 hideous months of attachment is sleeping through the night. We tried everything. I even sang. Well, that was probably part of the problem. But, I think it was the quilt my sister made for Ab's of my grandfather's clothing that finally comforted her at night. It's as if grandpa is watching over her as she dreams at night. Fm comment was "don't tell anyone that, it soo creepy". I don't care who knows. I'm sleeping. All night. FINALLY.
  • I know what she has been dreaming about now too. She's been boffing Barney. That's right. I walked in on her riding Barney like a mechanical bull! Ride em Cowgirl! It became clear to me why she begged desperately for mommy to cover her head at night when tucking her in. Every night. She thought she could hide from me. She'll learn. Momma sees everything! I heard a familiar moaning coming from their bedroom the other night as we were crawling in. Not that the walls in our nest have heard any waking or quaking lately but well,now I know why she sleeps so soundly. Ride Sally, ride.....
  • Abba aka "Sally" has recently started calling me "mum" and daddy "Jaaaaaw-freeee"! She thinks it's pretty funny. We do too, but are pretty firm on her calling daddy, daddy. She can call me "Mum" it sounds so aristocratic! lol.
  • My free and easy child (Katie) has morphed into the devil in disguise. Ugggg-leeee. A one eye'd monster who when not getting her way reels her nasty head. She has a temper worse than mine. Needless to say she's been spending a little more time in her bedroom! Momma does not put up with that crap. EV-AR!
  • Katie may be color blind. We can hold up a screaming red shirt and ask her "What color it this Katie"?. She smiles and very quickly and with self-assured confidence expounds "Bluuuuue"! Ahhhhhhh...... She is so unaffected by most things. Easy going, happy go lucky not a care in the world. Yes, she rides on a different bus.....
  • Katie is our Little Princess. She exclaimed yesterday "mommy, feet" as she pointed to her feet. Me: "mmmm, yes those are your feet" to which Katie replied "I can't walk, carry me"! She is our "little princess don't let my feet touch the ground girly-girl"!
  • Katie is our true girly-girl. She throws a fit if I try putting jeans on her. "No, mommy, dress"! AND, her bows and clips are always in place. Abbey, well that's another story. She looks as if she's been riding the bull.....
  • We dry girls off with a towel fresh out of the dryer when bathing or showering. They love their warm towel. I know Sen, we are creating monsters.
  • I knew the day would come and yes, I was dreading it. It was inevitable especially since the beefcake came into the picture. Mai had her first "overnight" with the boy! I was startled when she bolted through the door last night in a hurry. I know she's an adult,(24) but I worry about my girl. Anyway, she excitedly told us she was getting some clothes (me wondering why she needed clothes) because they were going "clubbing" and she was going to spend the night(what did you say?) with Wes. You can imagine my response. "Ohhhhhhhh". I wanted to ask, " Do you have protection"? "Are you prepared for this"? "Just remember, no means no".... I couldn't stop talking about it as we went to bed last night. Fm was hoping I would. I half heartedly asked Fm(which really meant I need to discuss this shit with her) "Do you think I need to have "the talk" with her"? He looked at me and rather firmly said, "She is an adult". Oh, he just doesn't get it. I hope he didn't stick his dippity dooo in her Venus fly trap! Not Fm, beefcake!!
  • I assumed everyone read my blog. But, I recently discovered that my mom doesn't! Doesn't even skim it. Ever. Yeah, that's right. WTF? My mom's retort when asked (by family member)why she doesn't read it was "I don't want to know about that stuff"! What, your grandchildren? Or your daughter? Makes it sound like a bad thing. It's not as if it were a porn site! But why do I act so surprised? I keep hoping it will change. One. day. It makes me so sad what little interest they have in my girls or me. She will probably learn of this post as a few family members do read this stuff I call my life! I am more than grateful that nana insists upon being a part of the girls lives. She has been a part of their lives since we returned from China. And she flies in for her bi-monthly vacation, although she might not think of it as va-kay. Now that's love.
  • Daddy and Mai both celebrated birthdays this month. Daddy turned 37 and Mai 24. I hosted a party for Mai and her friends complete with a home cooked Italian meal and cake from the Cheese Cake Factory. Beefcake came too. Pictures to follow.... I snuck a couple pictures of them sitting together. It looks as if they were afraid to touch one another! lol. They are very cute together and we do like him. Sweet guy. Daddy bought Mai the new razor and added texting on our plan for her. What a softy......




27 comments:

Christy said...

Oh the sleep ing through the night is something we struggle with also but PLEASE GOD dont let it take 18 months until this nightime hell is over!!! Some nights she only 1 time I have to stumble in but some nights it can be 3+ times. Some nights I just let her cry it out. It is just hell and I wake up a pissed off mommy not ready for the day!! On my work days (wed and thurs) it is even worse and I am pissy to the kids. Oh pleae dont let it take 18 month!!!!

Christy :)

cougchick said...

So glad she can hump the night away with her purple stallion as long as you are getting a good night's rest.
Your Mom is missing out on something great. Its her loss, not yours. All you can do is what YOU can do and she needs to step up on her end. If she doesn't than that sucks but at least you are trying. I have a similar situation with my Dad except the once in a blue moon that he actually shows up at something and then he is bragging about it for months. My Mom, Stepdad and In-laws try not to ever miss a basketball game, football game, soccer match, baseball game, or music/band concert (even the painful ones). He chooses it and it's his loss. Plain and simple.

Sam said...

Glad to hear you are finally getting some sleep! Your post left me feeling like I could use a nap too. Mai is a big girl now. That only means you get to worry more! Miss you!

Jewels of My Heart said...

So happy everyone is sleeping through the night.... I can't believe you spilled the beans on Mei to all of us... lol I hope she doesn't read your blog....
I am sorry about your Mom... I understand... we will talk. It is 2:27 A.M. and I must make myself go to bed...
Loved the stories of the girls.... they melt my heart.
love ya,
me

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy said...

Glad that everyone is sleeping through the night..
Love the bullets...
Love the pictures...
Sounds like things are going well..
Happy Birthday to Daddy and Mai...
Have a Great Week..

kerri said...

Roni, I totally understand about your Mom all too well, hugs to you.I know first hand how hard it can be, my Mom is totally involved with my girls and as for me well that's another story.
I had a giggle over your post, Miss Mai and her overnighter with her beefcake,just what you need another to worry about, LOL.
Boffin' Barney made me spit coffee on my computer screen, OMG!!!
Glad your getting some good rest. ;)

LaLa said...

Glad you are getting some sleep...Barney is probably exhausted though. Mai is going to get you for this post LOL

Sorry about Mom...mainly sorry for her and all she is missing out on. Glad Nana is around to pick up some of her slack!

Sophie's Mom said...

Well I'm glad you got all that off your chest! So glad she's sleeping through the night! It took a long time for Sophia, too. She would wake 3 times a night screaming out, and I would have to get up and rock her to calm her down. I was a zombie.

Barney, huh? Tee hee hee...

I'm 98% sure Sophia is color blind, funny you should mention that! She can pick yellow, but gets messed up on blue, green and red. She's smart as a whip on everything else (counting to 30, backwards from 10, abc's, can spell her name...) but can't for the life of her get her colors. It just doesn't fit. She's not even messing with me, she just doesn't get it.

Mai and her overnight? You must have the talk. She doesn't have her own Mom around to do it, right?

Sorry your Mom isn't plugged in, her loss. Shoot, I'm not even related, and I enjoy you and your blog! Nana's the bomb!

Is that the same beefcake? Well, he's sitting down, it's hard to tell. Could you have him stand for the next picture and flex for us? Yeah...

Rony said...

Will have him stand for the next picture. Sitting down next to the tall leggy skinny girl makes him look a little "thick". He is all muscle though.... Yes, I will need to have the talk!

Barbara said...

I have a wicked step mother. She mailed me back the Christmas gifts I sent her this year because the lotion "would irritate my excema." The real kicker was that she also sent back the earrings that my 9 year old made for her because "I can only wear real gold earrings." I felt like telling her to just shut up and say "thank you." Hasn't the woman heard of regifting??!

Beverly said...

Like the new look. Cute pics of the girls and Mei's beau is a cutie.

Beverly

Lisa M. said...

I thought I was the only chump who warm towel dried my children after bathtime. Nothings funner than being your kids bitch.

Salome's Mom said...

There was always something mysterious about Barney. I don't know, his little hands, big watermelon head, squinty eyes. He is drop dead gorgeous! I have not stopped laughing since reading that, you kill me.

How sweet that Mai has a little boyfriend. They do look in the pictures like they are afraid to touch each other. Please do have the talk with her and do not pay any attention to your husband.

I am sorry about your Mom not reading the site. I do think one day she will. You are very loved Rony. I don't know you personally but I feel you are a loving, genuine person. I feel like I know you through your blog and I love what I you have let us seen.

lesleysmeshly said...

Yay for sleep!!!!
Love the new design!
Love the photos...winter wonderland is gorgeous!!

Gail and Dan said...

Love the Abbey and Barney story, ahh...don't you just love little girls. :)

Noemi said...

So glad you are getting some sleep.

As for your mom, I feel you, however my Mom does read and then when something is what she considers out of line she will point it out and say no, no, no.

It is he lost. You know how much we all love you!

Noemi said...

So glad you are getting some sleep.

As for your mom, I feel you, however my Mom does read and then when something is what she considers out of line she will point it out and say no, no, no.

It is he lost. You know how much we all love you!

crazylady said...

So what are you going to write in my confessional next week with this big purge? HUH?
Glad this was all review and that I'm in the know about your life before the peeps... LETS KEEP IT THAT WAY.

Yeah, Meg masturbates to her dog too, and tells me 'it tickles'... ug..
Good thing they like to keep their clothes on.

Lucky Mai has someone watching over her and loving her so....

Hugs to you... there are many bloggers wishing their moms WERENT reading their blog, but I understand your pain.

Sennie

Chris & Deb said...

Great news on the sleep!

BTW....your blog looks great!

QJ-VNmama said...

Rony~

Aren't kids a hoot! You never know what surprise they are going to throw at you next. Gotta luv 'em!

Hugs,
Sue

Steffie B. said...

ok....I am tired just reading this post! lol Please warn us ahead of time if we need a cocktail before we begin! ;)

Rony said...

You should know Steffie B. always to have a cocktail while reading my posts. There's always a story.

Sen, never fear your secrets are safe with me. ALL OF THEM. I'll takem' to my grave. lol..

I had the talk with my girl and she's still pure as the driven snow. We discussed "no, means no, and it doesn't mean proceed with caution"! I feel much better now.

Jeff and Valerie said...

Sweet dreams!

Lori said...

I enjoyed the update! I'm glad you all are sleeping through the night, I know that makes a huge difference! (sweet about Grandpa's quilt)
Mai and her guy are cute together. You would feel better if you talked to her, and I'm sure she wouldn't mind your concern. :)
Happy Birthday to Mai and to your sweet hubby!!
Oh, we do the warm towel thing too....the things we do for our kids, huh?!

Truly Blessed said...

Sorry about your Mom's attitude. I know it's her loss, but it's also your girls' loss, and it still hurts.

jennifer said...

You are too much! Wasn't expecting most of that!

There's nothing like a good nights sleep!! That is very exciting news.

That picture of Mai and her guy is so cute!

Sorry about your mom. That really stinks!

Christine said...

Great update.
You may "think" you are sleeping through the night but you won't until they are 18!
The girls are always fun to read about. See you'll always have something to blog about.

If you are worried about Mia- you can let her know that you are available if she would like to talk. Make it some one -on one time. She is an adult ( young still) but everyone loves a supportive big sister.